When I had my little girl, I planned to have her at home. I was lucky and my home birth went as planned and she was born in our downstairs bathroom - although that bit I’d not expected! Even though I was hoping for a home birth, I still had to allow for the situation where my labour didn’t progress as expected. I used these simple tips to make sure I could take my mellow, homelike setting with me to hospital.
1. Make a playlist
Now I look back, I actually have no idea what track my daughter was born to. I wish I’d noted it down but my mind was elsewhere… In the months leading up to her birth, my husband and I spent an hour or so each week creating a birth playlist. Some of the tracks were calming, some faded into the background and some were more upbeat.
Your energy during labour will ebb and flow so a mixture of styles you can pick and choose from will be just what you need. Familiar sounds which drown out the background noise in a more medicalised environment will help you focus and relax. You could even bring a wireless speaker with you
2. Keep the numbers down
I was adamant that I wanted no family apart from my husband with me. I didn’t tell anyone else that I was in labour until my baby had arrived. I didn’t want to feel obliged to provide updates or answer text messages or manage the presence of anyone else. I also asked that we have as few caregivers as possible. This meant saying no to student observers and asking the midwives to give me a little space. I’m not sure I even noticed when they left my house. Feeling unobserved in a private space is an important part of relaxing and allowing your body to do it’s work.
3. Use low lighting
This was simple when we were at home. I had one single candle burning through the night and I think the midwife may have used the light of her phone to make her notes. Oxytocin flows better and adrenaline is less likely to be produced if lighting is kept minimal. Ask your midwives if you can turn the lights down and consider investing in a dim light. Fake candles are great as are colour changing lamps.
4. Get comfy
I could write an essay on the optimum positions for birth but I’ll limit it here to saying there is absolutely no need to use the bed for labouring. Sit on it, keep your stuff on it, climb into it when you’re ready to sleep but when it comes to comfort in labour, I’d stay well clear.
I planned to bring pillows and a soft blanket so I could make use of the floor, supersoft but darkly coloured pyjamas, my favourite shampoo and shower gel, a big fluffy towel (hospital ones can be threadbear and a little bit scratchy), socks to keep my feet warm and an elegant cover up to help me look and feel a bit pulled together when receiving visitors after baby had arrived.
5. Work with essential oils
In the world of hypnobirthing, essential oils can be used as a trigger. If they are used frequently when you are relaxed (having them diffusing at night when you sleep is ideal), once labour starts, they will subconsciously remind you of your calm space at home.
They will also mask the smell of disinfectant and the right oils can help support a woman in labour. Good choices are rose, neroli and lavender. I had a rose candle for use at home but for hospital, I bought a small pump spray bottle and added a few drops of an essential oil blend to water. The perfect homemade pillow spray.
Making a hospital room or a birthing centre feel more homely can seem a bit daunting but this was one of the jobs I asked my husband to take on. In the end, we didn’t need these small touches but I was reassured and probably more relaxed knowing that I had them ready to use.
This post was written for and first appeared on The Natural Parent Magazine.